Gratitude Blog

Mindset: Why do we care what people think?

I recently participated in challenge where I had to write down a list of limiting beliefs or in other words a list of things holding me back. As I was writing this list, one of the limiting beliefs that kept showing up was worrying about what other people think. I found myself writing things like “people won’t think I’m good enough” and “people won’t think I’m pretty enough”. Our assignment was to destroy them (which I gladly did!!), but before I took that step of faith, I also did something I wasn’t supposed to do…I kept a list!! Yep, that was a big no-no, but I did it anyway and here’s why:

  1. I believe that words are powerful!!

So powerful in fact that once I had written them down I was scared to just destroy them. My mind wanted to let go, but I knew I had to “fix” the words before in my mind or I wasn’t going to let them go.

  1. Fix them I did!!

I rewrote every word on that list!! I rephrased ever idea I had written down to be positive and my truth rather than have all the negativity rolling around my head. For example, “people won’t think I’m good enough” became “I am more than good enough for all those I inspire and work with”. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are exactly what we want to be.

  1. Then what??

After I rewrote all of the “corrections” to my limiting beliefs I crossed out the originals with a black sharpie so they could not be seen. Now I have a complete list of all the wonderful, positive attributes and qualities that I can revisit anytime I need a pick me up.

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Now if this sounds a little crazy to you, maybe it is. But I bet you often have those thoughts too even if you don’t want to admit it. We tend to believe what other people tell us (all the negative crap) instead of all the good that we know in our heart. Why do we do that? We have been conditioned or programmed if you will to accept what others tell us with resolve instead of tenacity. What?? It’s easier to back down and agree than it is to stand up and believe in ourselves. Are you with me on this?

So how do we change that pattern? How do we find the strength to continue to believe with our heart when our mind is fighting against us? I’m glad you asked…we change our mind. Yep, it is that simple. We literally change our mind. Now some would argue that women as a whole are very good at that so this should be a piece of cake. But we know that’s not the case. But it can be done.

First things first, and this is the most important part…you have to want to change your mind because you have to believe what you are going to be telling it!! If you don’t believe it then guess what, your mind won’t believe it either. Start out simple if that helps. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself one good thing that you want to believe about yourself. Maybe it’s that you are worthy or fearless. Maybe you struggling to make a change in your life and you need the validation that you can do it. Whatever it is, make it a priority every morning to say it at least 10 times and mean it!! And then remind yourself throughout the day. Before you go to bed, make it the last thoughts your mind is listening to. Once you master this practice, your mindset will shift and you will begin to feel the difference and move on to changing your mindset about other things too. You’ve got this. Stop worrying what other people think!! Start worrying about what you think!!

Please share this if you know someone who could use this encouragement today.

 

-Teri

 

 

 

 

Gratitude……why do people think it’s hard to do?

That’s the question I have been asking myself over and over for weeks now … why do people think it’s hard to “show” gratitude? To “do” gratitude? To “be” gratitude?

The concept of being grateful and thankful for most of us started at a very young age. We were taught by our parents to say please and thank you when we wanted something or were asking for something. We were taught to say thank you or write thank you notes when we received gifts from others. Some of us were even taught to say thank you before each meal in the form of a prayer.

So what’s changed now that we are adults? Where did the disconnect occur?

While I can’t explain the shift or why people find it unnecessary to say thank you to people any longer, I can tell you that the people I know who show gratitude and practice gratitude in their daily lives are happier human beings. They feel more fulfilled every day. They are quick to share with others and enjoy it. What? People actually do this? Yep! And you can to!!

Here are some easy practices you can start immediately to change your mindset and start living a life filled with gratitude!!

  1. Say thank you!!

Easy right? Well if it’s so easy why are only 10 out of 100 people doing it? Live in the present and be grateful and respectful. Say thank you to your waiter/waitress every time they refill your drink. Say thank you to the cashier handing you your change or debit card back. Say thank you to the person holding the door open for you as you walk in behind them. Say thank you out loud when you get the “princess parking” spot in the front row at your grocery store. Say thank you to your husband/wife when they take the trash out. Say thank you to your kids when they walk the dog. If you are reading this and asking yourself if you do these things or not….it doesn’t matter. Start now….say thank you!

  1. Journal

This is my favorite way to show gratitude. I journal every single day in the morning while drinking my coffee. Yes, I get up a little earlier to make sure I can accomplish this every single day. It doesn’t take long and can change your whole day by starting off in a mindset of gratefulness. It doesn’t have to be fancy or formal. Just a note book or journal and a pen. Write from your heart. It doesn’t have to be lengthy (although if you stick with it daily, you will be surprised how much you have to be grateful for every day). My entries start the same way every day….the date and this sentence: Today I am grateful for_______________________________.

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  1. Before Bed Meditation

If you aren’t a morning person, this may be more your speed. Before going to bed every night, quietly close your eyes and listen to your yourself breathe. Feel the breath going in and out of your lungs, feel the rise and fall of your chest. Then quietly say thank you for the blessings you received that day. Even on a bad day, there is always something to be thankful for. And if you truly feel like you can’t find anything, focus back on your breathing and be thankful for each and every breath you are taking. I’m sure this will lead to other things to be grateful for.

  1. Read a Daily Devotional

Reading is one of the easiest ways to not only practice being grateful but to actual feel grateful!! There are many ways to accomplish this in today’s techy world. There are apps on your phone that you can download for free. You can purchase a book or a calendar that have 365 devotionals to read daily. You can read the bible if you choose. So many options. It doesn’t matter what you choice, but that you are making the choice to show up every single day and be grateful!

I hope these ideas have inspired you to show gratitude in a big way! If you are new to this, pick the one that is easiest for you and start there. If you are looking for a different way to show your gratitude, choose one that you haven’t tried before and test it out. The important thing is to start. Today.

Thank you for following my blog.       – Teri

The Journey Begins

Welcome to the Gratitude Blog!!

Thank you all for joining me on this never ending adventure!! Every single day I learn something more about myself, about life and about what it takes to navigate it all. I’m enjoying sharing and spending time with all of you through my social media posts and am looking forward to even more in this weekly blog!

I believe self development is the key to not only success but true happiness. Self development is often mistaken for those who “need” help when in actuality it is the highest form of learning. When you seek out new knowledge and new understanding about the world around you, you are opening the doors to your mind and your heart to all the possibilities out there for you. Those who continually strive to learn something new are continually using their mind which feeds their soul. One of my favorite quotes is by Leonardo da Vinci who said “Learning never exhausts the mind”.

I have been preparing for this chapter of my life for what seems like forever. And now that it is here, I am a learner all over again. I am working on all of my skills sets daily, learning skills I don’t necessarily excel at (like this whole website design and blog thing), and focusing on all the important things in life. Learning to live a purposeful life is something I have been doing for years and I can’t wait to share it with you. Some days it’s not easy, but it so rewarding at the end of every single day. Do I stumble and fall — you betcha I do!! I’m not perfect, and neither will this blog be perfect! But my hope is that I can share something with you weekly that will inspire you or motivate you to be the best version of yourself!

Thank you all for sharing this journey with me!!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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